Becoming Your Space

Softness speaks. The more space we make inside, the more gently we begin to bloom.

The Spaces We See

Our living quarters, our homes, our personal spaces—these are places we occupy and arrange to our comfort. We all live in a space, and within that space we have even more space: space to collect, to arrange, to clean, to simply put things. Physical space is easy to grasp. It often gets reshuffled when we need a change or more room.

There’s space on top of our desks, in our closets, drawers, and bureaus. Cluttered or clean, sacred or spare, it’s always there. Sometimes it brings comfort. Other times it creates tension.

We instinctively arrange these areas so that they feel “right.” Welcoming. Comfortable. Familiar.

But here’s something we don’t often talk about:

What about our emotional space?

Physical vs. Emotional Space

Physical space is obvious. We clear surfaces. Rearrange furniture. Let go of what no longer fits. We decorate with what we love. We create room for something new.

But emotional space? That’s less visible. And because it hides thought, habit, and history—we often ignore it.

We clear our desks—but how often do we clean up looping thoughts?

We rearrange our furniture—but do we challenge old beliefs?

We donate clothes that no longer fit—but what about self-talk that no longer serves us?

We hang art that brings us joy—but do we make space for joy in our inner lives?

“The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.”

Hans Hofman

We know what to do when a room feels to full. But when our emotional world becomes cluttered, we often freeze or push through.

What if we approached emotional space the same way we handle our physical one?

Slowly. Gently. With intention.

The Shift That Happens Without Force

We’re not broken.

But what if we started clearing emotional space, not knowing exactly what it would do—just trusting that something good might unfold?

That’s what happened to me. I didn’t set out with a blueprint for personal growth or emotional clarity. There was no roadmap. No big plan.

I just began with small steps.

Clearing off surfaces. Realizing clutter. Simplifying routines. And somehow, without realizing it, my emotional life started to change.

Like a lint trap catching what no longer belonged—small pieces that slowly added to something heavy I didn’t need to carry.

My thoughts softened. My reactions slowed. My sense of presence deepened.

I began seeing joy not as something to define, but as something I could feel.

Even in difficulty, joy still showed up. Not loudly, just reliably. Like a familiar guest returning to a place finally ready to receive it.

“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”

James Clear

Rearranging the Room of the Mind

We don’t think of our emotional lives as rooms. But maybe we should. Imagine if you could walk through your mind like you walk through your home. Move outdated stories closer to the exit. Sweep old patterns out the door instead of under the rug. Open the windows to let in freshness.

And maybe, just maybe let something beautiful take up residence instead.

Not all at once.

Maybe you just crack the window today. Maybe you dust off a corner of yourself that hasn’t seen the light in a while. Overtime, and without much fanfare, you realize something subtle but profound:

You’ve become your space.

Not by force. But through quiet, gentle, arrangement.

“Your space is where you can find yourself again and again.”

Joseph Campbell

It’s Not Complicated

There is no perfect formula. No ten-step plan. No end destination. You just need to be willing. Make space in your day. Make space in your thoughts. Make space in your life. And then let yourself emerge.

I’ve found peace here. Life still brings battles, sure. But I’ve gotten better at changing the channel.

Hardship is inevitable. Suffering is part of the deal. But the more emotional space we clear, the more capacity we have to sit with what hurts.

And in that stillness?

Joy finds a place to stay.

“It’s not daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”

Bruce Lee

Stop chasing joy. Start living inside of it.

Talk soon…

G